From Holy Dying

    Jeremy Taylor

    Take away but the pomps of death, the disguises and solemn bugbears, the tinsel, and the actings by candle-light, and proper and fantastic ceremonies, the minstrels and the noise-makers, the women and the weepers, the swoonings and the shriekings, the nurses and the physicians, the dark room and the ministers, the kindred and the watchers; and then to die is easy, ready, and quitted from its troublesome circumstances. It is the same harmless thing that a poor shepherd suffered yesterday, or a maidservant today; and at the same time in which you die, in that very night a thousand creatures die with you, some wise men and many fools; and the wisdom of the first will not quit him, and the folly of the latter does not make him unable to die.

    Of all the evils of the world which are reproached with an evil character, death is the most innocent of its accusation. For when it is present, it hurts nobody; and when it is absent, it is indeed troublesome, but the trouble is owing to our fears, not to the affrighting and mistaken object: and besides this, if it were an evil, it is so transient, that it passes like the instant or undiscerned portion of the present time; and either it is past, or it is not yet; for just when it is, no man hath reason to complain of so insensible, so sudden, so undiscerned a change.

    From 'Essays'

    Michel de Montaigne

    ‘To begin depriving death of its greatest advantage over us, let us adopt a way clean contrary to that common one; let us deprive death of its strangeness, let us frequent it, let us get used to it; let us have nothing more often in mind than death. At every instant let us evoke it in our imagination under all its aspects. Whenever a horse stumbles, a tile falls or a pin pricks however slightly, let us at once chew over this thought: ‘Supposing that was death itself?’ With that, let us brace ourselves and make an effort. In the midst of joy and feasting let our refrain be one which recalls our human condition. Let us never be carries away by pleasure so strongly that we fail to recall occasionally how many are they ways in which that joy of ours is subject to death or how many are the fashions in which death threatens to snatch it away. . . We do not know where death awaits us: so let us await it everywhere. To practise death is to practice freedom. A man who has learned how to die has unlearned how to be a slave.’

    From 'Meditations;

    Marcus Aurelius

    Mortal man, you have been a citizen in this great City; what does it matter to you whether for five or fifty years? For what is according to its law is equal for every man. Why is it hard, then, if Nature who brought you in – no despot or unjust judge – sends you out of the City, as thought the master of the show, who engaged an actor, were to dismiss him from the stage? ‘But I have not spoken my five acts, only three.’ ‘What you say is true, but in life three acts are the whole play’. For He determines the perfect whole, the cause yesterday of your composition, today of your dissolution; you are the cause of neither. Leave the stage, therefore, and be reconciled, for He also who lets his servant depart is reconciled.

    From ‘On the Fear of Death’

    William Hazlitt

    Perhaps the best cure for the fear of death is to reflect that life has a beginning as well as an end. There was a time when we were not: this gives us no concern – why, then, should it trouble us that a time will come when we shall cease to be? I have no wish to have been alive a hundred years ago, or in the reign of Queen Anne: why should I regret and lay it so much to heart that I shall not be alive a hundred years hence, in the reign of I cannot tell whom?

    To die is only to be as we were before we were born; yet no one feels any remorse, or regret, or repugnance, in contemplating this last idea. It is rather a relief and disburdening of the mind: it seems to have been holiday-time with us then: we were not called to appear upon the stage of life, to wear robes or tatters, to laugh or cry, be hooted or applauded; we had lain perdus all this while, snug, out of harm's way; and had slept out our thousands of centuries without wanting to be waked up; at peace and free from care, in a long nonage, in a sleep deeper and calmer than that of infancy, wrapped in the softest and finest dust. And the worst that we dread is – after a short, fretful, feverish being, after vain hopes and idle fears – to sink to final repose again, and forget the troubled dream of life!

    From 'Pensees'

    Pascal

    Man is only a reed, the weakest thing in nature – but he is a thinking reed. It does not take the universe in arms to crush him: a vapour, a drop of water is enough to kill him. But, though the universe should crush him, man would still be nobler than his destroyer, because he knows that he is dying, that the universe has the advantage over him. The universe knows nothing of this.

    The Last Chance

    Andrew Lang (1844-1912)

    Within the streams, Pausanias saith,
    That down Cocytus valley flow,
    Girding the grey domain of Death,
    The spectral fishes come and go;
    The ghosts of trout flit to and fro.
    Persephone, fulfil my wish,
    And grant that in the shades below
    My ghost may land the ghosts of fish

    At Grass

    Philip Larkin (1922 - 1985)

    The eye can hardly pick them out
    From the cold shade they shelter in,
    Till wind distresses tail and main;
    Then one crops grass, and moves about
    - The other seeming to look on -
    And stands anonymous again

    Yet fifteen years ago, perhaps
    Two dozen distances surficed
    To fable them : faint afternoons
    Of Cups and Stakes and Handicaps,
    Whereby their names were artificed
    To inlay faded, classic Junes -

    Silks at the start : against the sky
    Numbers and parasols : outside,
    Squadrons of empty cars, and heat,
    And littered grass : then the long cry
    Hanging unhushed till it subside
    To stop-press columns on the street.

    Do memories plague their ears like flies?
    They shake their heads. Dusk brims the shadows.
    Summer by summer all stole away,
    The starting-gates, the crowd and cries -
    All but the unmolesting meadows.
    Almanacked, their names live; they

    Have slipped their names, and stand at ease,
    Or gallop for what must be joy,
    And not a fieldglass sees them home,
    Or curious stop-watch prophesies :
    Only the grooms, and the grooms boy,
    With bridles in the evening come.

    The Fisherman

    W.B. Yeats (1865-1939)

    Although I can see him still—
    The freckled man who goes
    To a gray place on a hill
    In gray Connemara clothes
    At dawn to cast his flies—
    It's long since I began
    To call up to the eyes
    This wise and simple man.
    All day I'd looked in the face
    What I had hoped it would be
    To write for my own race
    And the reality:
    The living men that I hate,
    The dead man that I loved,
    The craven man in his seat,
    The insolent unreproved—
    And no knave brought to book
    Who has won a drunken cheer—
    The witty man and his joke
    Aimed at the commonest ear,
    The clever man who cries
    The catch cries of the clown,
    The beating down of the wise
    And great Art beaten down.

    Maybe a twelve-month since
    Suddenly I began,
    In scorn of this audience,
    Imagining a man,
    And his sun-freckled face
    And gray Connemara cloth,
    Climbing up to a place
    Where stone is dark with froth,
    And the down turn of his wrist
    When the flies drop in the stream—
    A man who does not exist,
    A man who is but a dream;
    And cried, “Before I am old
    I shall have written him one
    Poem maybe as cold
    And passionate as the dawn.”

    Cat in an Empty Apartment

    Wislawa Szymborska (1923-2012)

    Die—you can't do that to a cat.
    Since what can a cat do
    in an empty apartment?
    Climb the walls?
    Rub up against the furniture?
    Nothing seems different here,
    but nothing is the same.
    Nothing has been moved,
    but there's more space.
    And at nighttime no lamps are lit.

    Footsteps on the staircase,
    but they're new ones.
    The hand that puts fish on the saucer
    has changed, too.

    Something doesn't start
    at its usual time.
    Something doesn't happen
    as it should.
    Someone was always, always here,
    then suddenly disappeared
    and stubbornly stays disappeared.

    Every closet has been examined.
    Every shelf has been explored.
    Excavations under the carpet turned up nothing.
    A commandment was even broken,
    papers scattered everywhere.
    What remains to be done.
    Just sleep and wait.

    Just wait till he turns up,
    just let him show his face.
    Will he ever get a lesson
    on what not to do to a cat.
    Sidle toward him
    as if unwilling
    and ever so slow
    on visibly offended paws,
    and no leaps or squeals at least to start.

    Widgeon

    Seamus Heaney (1939-2013)

    It had been badly shot.
    While he was plucking it
    he found, he says, the voice box -

    like a flute stop
    in the broken windpipe -

    and blew upon it
    unexpectedly
    his own small widgeon cries.

    David’s Epitaph on Jonathan

    Francis Quarles (17thc)

    Here lies the fairest flower that stood
    in Israel’s garden; now, in blood;
    which Death - to make her garland gay -
    hath cropped, against her triumphal day.
    Here, here lies he, whose actions penned
    the perfect copy of a friend,
    whose milk-white vellum did incur
    no least suspicion of a blur.
    Here lies the example of a brother,
    not to be followed by another,
    the fair indented counterpart
    of Davids joy, of David’s heart.
    Rest then; forever, rest alone,
    thy ashes can be touched by none,
    till death hath picked one such another:
    Here lies a flower, a friend, a brother.

    It is based on the book of Samuel (2 Sam 23-7): ‘Saul and Jonathan were lovely and pleasant in their lives, and in their death they were not divided: they were swifter than eagles, they were stronger than lions. . . How are the mighty fallen in the midst of the battle! O Jonathan, thou wast slain in thine high places. I am distressed for thee, my brother Jonathan: very pleasant hast thou been unto me: thy love to me was wonderful, passing the love of women. How are the mighty fallen, and the weapons of war perished!’

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